Foster daughter to “three avoid”, foster child has “three taboo”
Raising children is a lifelong topic for parents.
Especially nowadays, many parents hope to have both children and let their children grow up with each other.
But how should a son teach?How should the daughter teach?
Professor Li Mei-jin proposed that raising girls to have “three avoid”, raising boys to have “three taboo”.
Parents should choose the most suitable way of education for their children according to their gender and character.
Foster daughter to “three shuns”
A few days ago, I saw a piece of news.
A 22-year-old college student is being sued by her parents for refusing to support her 2-year-old brother, who they just gave birth to.
Her parents are low-income families, it is already very difficult to support themselves, but have been fighting to have a child.
When he finally gave birth to a son, he realized that he could not afford it, so he threw the burden on his daughter’s shoulders.
A 22-year-old girl has just started her life and already has a “little son”.
Therefore, knowing that he could not afford it, why did he still seek for a son, dragging down his daughter and dragging down the whole family?
The preference for sons over daughters has ruined the lives of many daughters.
Avoid boys over girls
Parents attach too much importance to their son, or neglect or snub their daughter, will leave a life-long trauma to the daughter.
More do not give her daughter indoctrination “raise a daughter at a loss”, “sooner or later to marry off” the concept, let her feel that he does not belong to the family, insecure.
A confident girl must be nurtured by a family that values her daughter.
Daughters are also your children, raising children should not be treated differently because of their gender, each is a parent’s most precious gift in life.
- Avoid overindulgence
Nowadays, many parents have become “daughter slaves”, giving their daughters endless love and tenderness.
They believe that girls are inherently weak and need protection, so that the daughter will never grow up in the arms of her parents.
You spoil your daughter, even telling her “You’re a woman, so you don’t have to…”She will never know how to assume responsibility.
Don’t set a gender framework for your daughter, she can be brave and independent.
- Avoid simple enrichment
They say, “Poor to raise a rich daughter,” give her the best daughter.
In doing so, it is possible to indulge the daughter into a spoiled and irritable person.
To nourish the spirit is more important than to nourish the material.
When a girl has her parents’ love, kind guidance and understanding, she will have a broader vision and pattern than her peers.
To raise a good daughter, first of all, we need to get rid of the bondage and prejudice of this society towards women, and really understand what she needs.
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