His words aroused Yang’s strong agreement
A Beining said that when he became a father, he observed his children every day. He could see his own shadow in the children, feel the wonderful growth of life, and even feel that he was participating in his own growth.
He enjoys the process and cites his wife as an example: “My wife, even if she becomes a stay-at-home mom, can learn a lot in a short period of time about how to take care of a person at the beginning of a life. It’s also a learning process and a growth process.”
Therefore, even for stay-at-home moms and dads who have no income, one is valuable. Other family members should recognize this value and call on the society to fully recognize each person and each role.
His words aroused Yang’s strong agreement.
Yang added: “People’s value should be recognized by themselves. Whether you go out to work or stay at home full-time, you should recognize your value and not do things with a sense of sacrifice.
The feeling of sacrifice is a particularly terrible thing in human relationships.”
Yes, it’s not a sacrifice to give up work and go back to family. It’s a choice.
Choosing to be involved in your child’s development is also a fun and meaningful thing, and its value is called “becoming a parent.”
Work and family are only different in terms of “value form”, not “value or not”.
Stay-at-home dads or moms should learn to enjoy the value of “being a parent”, enjoy the laughter and laughter our children bring us, and enjoy the fun of life our children bring us.
Returning to a family with a sense of sacrifice: “I sacrificed my career for my children” is a disaster for parent-child relationships.
Parents’ sense of sacrifice robs us of our ability to perceive happiness
A survey conducted by pollsters in the United States on 60,000 women found that stay-at-home mothers who take care of their children for a long time had more negative emotions, such as depression and anxiety, than working mothers.
Twenty-eight percent of stay-at-home moms were clinically depressed.
There is a case in the book “How to Quietly Get Kids to Cooperate with Parents Without Yelling or Yelling” :
Lisa, a mother of two-year-old twins, quit her job as a project manager to be a stay-at-home mom after maternity leave to take care of her children.
Taking care of two children every day leaves her with no time for herself at all.
She kept herself busy with the children’s daily chores during the day, and tidied up the house at night after the children had gone to bed.
She doesn’t even have time to sit down and chat with her husband, let alone get together with her friends.
To stay in touch with her friends, she checks her email late at night, after the kids have fallen asleep, which makes her sleep deprived and her mood worse during the day.
It’s terrible to be around your child every day!
She thought that “I should devote all my life to my children”, but such a life made her tired and lonely. She had no interest in life and felt desperate for her loneliness, so that when she was sick and her sister came to visit her, she could not help but burst into emotional outbursts and cried a lot.